San Diego, known for being a city that’s expensive, where locals pay extra for the sunshine tax and the abiity to say they live in a city with good vibes and beautiful weather year-round. But most big cities usually have a reputation for not being a great place to date, and seeing the comments on one of our latest posts, it looks like San Diego is among that list.
When we asked our community to voice their opinion on San Diego’s dating scene, there was a flurry of comments. Here’s what San Diegans had to say about their city’s dating scene:
- “Lame. Everyone has a back up to their backup.”
- “People are so untitled and have unrealistic expectations for what they want in a relationship.”
- “You can marry someone but he will keep a secret girlfriend and when he decides to leave you “for her” but it’s really just about avoiding responsibilities he makes you, his wife, believe you’re in a situationship with him. So…. Maybe don’t. Date. Brandon. He has at least one girlfriend, and a legal wife, who he refuses to divorce even though he wanted a divorce so badly.”
- “Depends on your values. Some of us are transplants and find the local culture to be that of entitlement and privilege.”
- “San Diego has some of the most pretentious men I have ever met lol”
- “Here for the comments lol”
- “contaminated…”
- “Every one just wants to hook up. No relationship, no going out to eat, no movies, no walks on the boardwalk, no going out for drinks…..”
- “I feel invisible and have mostly accepted it. I choose the peace and quiet”
- “Unrequited love. Men and women driving outside their lanes holding out for partners they don’t qualify for. I think thats a USA thing though not just San Diego.”
- “Good for short lived fun, but not for longevity.”
- “If you aint rich, you’ll struggle. Its not about a connection but what they can get out of you. Then you got regular 5s thinking they’re 10s will drive outside their lanes holding out for partners they don’t qualify for.”
- “Everyone stop kidding yourself. It’s hard for a lot of people, but it’s same here as anywhere else. San Diego is not any more challenging than any other big city in the country.”
- “The real question is, where is there a GOOD dating scene?”
- “Dating in San Diego?”
- “In my experience, nobody knows how to communicate or commit anymore, even if they state in their profile how important it is. The first issue/disagreement/imperfection that comes up, the person with the issue doesn’t ask questions to better understand it and instead they just assume the worst and write that person off so they can moves on to the next person in their queue.”
- “So many beautiful people”
- “Married 16 years this year so I’m out of the game, but doesn’t San Diego have a favorable men to women ratio for women? (More single men than women?) If true, I would imagine the ladies would be having a better go of it here.”
- “Sad and depressing”
- “It’s a joke lol.”
- “It sucks.”
- “So much fun!”
- “Everyone wants to date with no purpose.”
- “I stopped caring 15 years ago.”
- “Not great…”
- “As if.”
- “I call it a dating swamp vs a dating pool
It’s filled w swamp monsters” - “A lot of military cheating men.”
- “Toughest town to get laid.”
- “Expensive.”
- “Guys just wait for women to run after them. So if you’re traditional, you’re screwed”
- “It’s a joke. Sooo much bs in this area with dating. It’s so bad I actually stopped dating, which I never thought I’d do”
- “Hi, there! Tell me about yourself!”“mostly just work a lot”“I hear that. What do you do? Do you like it?”“Yeah.”“That’s cool. Do you get to travel with your job?”“Yeah.”“Like for conferences or field work? Where is the last place you went?”“East coast.”“Nice. When did you go? Was it snowing?”“Yeah.”“I lived in the snow as a kid. I miss it sometimes. Did you grow up here?”“Yep”“Nice! Look, you don’t seem that interested. So good luck in your search!”
“Wanna come over?”
Well…there it is. What do you think? How many of these can you relate to, or do you find the community to be a bit negative?